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ADULT SERVICE PROVIDERS RIGHTS

 

Exotic Dancers' Alliance-Archives

The Exotic Dancers Alliance was a co-founding organization of BAYSWAN. Although the EDA organization and website no longer provides services and info, below are some links about dancers' rights and issues:

Archive of Original Exotic Dancers' Alliance Website

Laws To Know- From Exotic Dancers' Alliance Website

 

Exotic Dancer Organizations (please forward the name of your local organization)

The Lusty Lady: San Francisco's Unionized, worker owned Peep Show, As Seen on TV (Showtime) in Live Nude Girls Unite!

Exotic Dancers Union

Stripper Literature

Strip City: A Stripper's Farewell Journey Across America
One of Salon.com's Best Books of 2001.One of Entertainment Weekly's Best Books of 2001.

Labor organizing In The Skin Trade
Tales of a Peep Sow Prole

Dancer News

The Unionisation of Sex Workers: Issue 13 6-04

Strippers Petition to Paw Patrons-8-07

Saving women from themselves: Private Booths in San Francisco-9-06
Also Bad Legislation

Strippers of the world unite -6-03

Australian Stripper's Union, Sex workers get legal rights 6-06

Exotic Dancers Face Real Dangers-7-06

Temporary Work Permit Program For Exotic Dancers-2-05

 

Academic: Journal Articles and Reports

Sex worker unionisation: an exploratory study of emerging collective organisation
Gregor Gall, Industrial Relations Journal, Vol. 38, No. 1, pp. 70-88, January 2007
featuring: Striptease Artists of Australia

Sex Worker's Rights and Media Ethics: Notes for Journalists
by Jo Weldon, Director

 

Stripper/Dancer/Performer Resource Websites (Note: These resources have not been reviewed.)

StarLight Ministries- An outreach ministry to exotic dancers

Stripper Services- Stripper agency

LA Hunks-Los Angeles Male Strippers -Stripper Agency

Work and tax information EU-Strip Magazine

Parents in Adult -a variety of excellent resources and support for those with children who work in adult industries.

 

Dancer/Stripper Magazines and Sites

Strip Magazine-Europe

Spread Magazine

PORNSTAR TO BE OR NOT TO BE

 Your images, once out, will be worldwide forever. They cannot be removed by producers at your request if you later change your mind (we sell the rights on to other companies). Do take time to think of the consequences. e.g. Will you ever want to teach children, etc?

• To be a good performer requires good looks, perseverance and a large dollop of interpersonal skills. Are you good with people, easy going and most of all, reliable (the reliable ones get most of the work)?

• A good porn star will take pride in their appearance and not just rely on being the 'new' face. This means going to the gym, keeping yourself clean, getting your hair done, etc (this includes blokes, too!).

• The industry in the UK has recently moved to a health standard of an HIV and full STD certificate with proof of identification on it. THIS MUST BE UNDER 30 DAYS OLD ON THE DAY OF THE SHOOT!!! Decent producers should not work with you without this paperwork. Tests are either free, cheap or up to £180 per month depending on where you live and how organised you are about getting booked in advance. Don't bother getting a test until you get on an agency's books or have been promised work. The tests take a week to develop. Always check the other performer's tests yourself.

• Take pride in your performance and learn from other performers on how to improve. Add your own personal touch/speciality to help make you stand out from the crowd. The UK is still way behind the US and European in terms of quality of performance (not all of you - some are really great!). We need to improve in order to compete internationally, which should mean more cash for all you stars and wannabes at the end of the day.

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Do you want to be a porn star — WOMEN

a. Nina Hartley once said "Don't do at work what you wouldn't do at home for free. Know your boundaries and stick to them". In other words, just because you may want to do something in the future doesn't mean that you have to do it all in the beginning.

b. Apply to all the model agencies plus individual production companies listed on this site with a head and shoulder photo + full nude (standing) photo. Don't send a million variations of photos as this just clogs up e-mail addresses unnecessarily.

c. Industry video rates are around: £250 girl/girl, £300 Boy/Girl, £350 Boy/Girl + Anal, £400 Double Penetration or more (circa autumn 2004). Plus reasonable travel expenses with lunch provided (usually).

d. There's a market for all types of women big and small, old and young, so don't be put off.

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And finally...

If you are still keen to try out, I employ newcomers on my shoots. I am always looking for attractive, confident performers who have good bodies. Please note: I am not currently looking for men.

Send one good head and shoulders picture + one full length body nude picture to: anna@easyote.co.uk or, if you prefer, try the other model agencies and producers, many of whom are listed in the BGAFD links section.

This is not a conclusive list and my experience is strictly with video but I hope it helps

MEN PORNSTAR FACTS

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A warning to all would-be pornstars (especially females)

Do not enter the porn business if…

1. You will try and keep it a secret from any adult you dearly care about!

2. You are not prepared to be looked at differently (at the least) when you tell people what you do!

3. You haven't done your homework about this industry. You should know who the successful companies, producers and directors are. You should know what directors shoot what kind of content and which agents/managers have good reputations.

4. If your going to cry when your hear your old high school chums have started referring to you as the blowjob or anal queen.

5. If you are easily swayed and manipulated unless you have an agent, manager or loved one that is willing to act as your mouthpiece!

6. If you don't fully understand the health risks you are about to undertake. For more info try AIM .

7. If you just want to try it one time to see if you like it.

In short, I know what it takes to make a good pornstar as well as the pitfalls that you need to avoid...

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Performing in front of the camera (Men)

What it's all about?

To me, this is the hardest (no pun intended) most physically demanding job in the entire industry.

Not only do you have to get it up, get it in and get it off when told to do so, butt you often times have to do it under very strenuous circumstances…i.e. in muscle-cramping positions, on very uncomfortable surfaces or even with women that you're not very attracted to. Throw in the latest trend of "Sexual Olympics" / shock videos and you might even find yourself rubbing cocks with a stranger as you both fuck the same pussy or ass at the same time! So, if your cock doesn't get hard when the wind blows or if you don't think you could fuck an ugly girl for an hour with a crowd of complete strangers looking in…you don't even need to read on any further!!

Unlike women, men in this industry can't really afford to pick and choose their work, until they establish themselves as a reliable stud that is. And to do that you must prove to producers, directors and the female performers that you are reliable no matter what the circumstances that you're given. The goal is to become a stud that is actually requested for by the female performers. A reliable stud can make $100,000 + per year and have a hell of a lot of fun!

While most males (95%) are independent performers. A small percentage of very special males are offered contracts to become exclusive performers for a particular company. This is extremely rare!

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Breaking in (Men)

This is perhaps, the most difficult part of being a stud… getting your big break.

You see, there is somewhat of a catch-22 here because it's hard to get hired without a reference or sample of your abilities and it's hard to get a reference or sample without being hired.

Unless you have a personal contact within the industry or a 15inch rock hard cock, your best bet is to find a female who is also looking to get in the industry. You team up and adopt a "we only work together" policy for a while until you both feel comfortable. If the girl is attractive, you will be given a shot just because the producer/director wants your girl in his movie.

As for agents/ managers who specialize in helping performers get work, while the women have many choices in this area there is really only one game in town for the men… World Modeling in Van Nuys California. In addition, the adult entertainment expo in Las Vegas every January is a great place to be seen and meet the people that you want to know!

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Performer rates per scene (Men)

Men are paid based on performance abilities + appearance. Pay rates don't usually differ between anal + vaginal sex scenes.

Solo Masturbation (shot by gay companies mostly) = $100-300

Blowjob = $100-300

Boy/Girl = $200-800

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So, who the hell is Seymour Butts?

Adam Glasser aka Seymore Butts has been making adult films for 12 years and is one of the premier creators of gonzo-style adult entertainment, with more than 70 films to his credit. He is a major force in the industry and now he brings all to you with his official web site www.TeamTushy.com

www.TeamTushy.com is full of hardcore video and pictures of Seymore Butts having consensual sex with the hottest porn stars in the adult business. "I have video and pics of all the hottest Porn Stars like Flower, Mari Possa, McKayla Matthews, Alisha Klass and hundreds of others. I also have live feeds, a chat room, I do special live shows, and exclusive material just for this site. So please, join my website and watch all the hot anal sex, ass fucking, big tits, huge cocks, and cum shots that you can handle".

 WOMEN PORNSTAR FACTS

• Performing in front of the camera (Women)

What it's all about? Here's the bottom line…

The better looking you are, the more you're willing to do…the more money you'll make! For women, there are basically two ways to approach the business…

1. As independent performers
2. As contract performers

And is not necessarily a choice as you have to have a lot going for you to be offered a contract i.e. you're beautiful, photogenic, have an incredible body and an insatiable appetite for anal sex!

Many women, no matter their looks, choose the independent route simply because they are able to make much more money in the short term. These are the girls that generally aren't entering the business with long-term career goals in mind…at least not in this industry. Maybe their working their way through school or trying to pay off debts?

A great long term career can also be had as an independent performer, as well. In fact, someone who keeps themselves looking good hustles and knows how to keep their name out there can make more money than a contract performer too!

There are many independent performers who make over $150,000 per year just from shooting movies alone.

Contract performers generally make more money per scene than independents butt work much less often. The advantage is supposed to be in the focused promotion the performer is to receive from the contracting company which should translate into increased on line and feature dance tour revenues for the girls. (see additional money-making opps for females)

Contracts average between $50,000-90,000 yearly for an average of 20-40 scenes from the girl in the year.

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Breaking in (Women)

This is a much easier process for women and gets even easier the better looking you are! Here's the easiest way after sending me your info + pictures to seymore@earthlink.net Post your picture along with your personal info i.e. height, weight and sex acts that you know you enjoy and are willing to do, on any of the following websites… www.lukeford.com , www.stunningcurves.com or www.setgo.com

Performer rates per scene (Women)

Women are paid based on appearance + type of sex acts she is willing to perform :

Solo Masturbation = $200-400

Girl/Girl = $400-600

Girl/Girl (anal) = $500-800

Boy/Girl = $500-1200

Boy/Girl (anal) = $700-2000

Boy/Boy/Girl (double penetration) = $1000-2500

Blowjob = $200-500

SENSUAL MASSAGE

 

"Sensory stimulation will usually not be effective unless the appropriate emotional conditions are also present. Feelings of trust, of being wanted and cared for, and affection for one's partner often enhance our sexual response; in fact, they may be necessary ingredients. In contrast, feelings of being used, lack of emotional rapport, or negative emotions like guilt and anxiety often eliminate or restrain our capacity for erotic arousal."... more

Preparation:

Let's prepare the room for a stimulating experience: The temperature in the room needs to be comfortable for being naked. It is better to have the room too warm than too cool. The Massage Surface, mostly massage table, should be covered with a nice warm flannel sheet for warmth, or a satin sheet for the slick sensation. Many people choose a bear rug in front of a roaring fireplace as selected location.

Vision:

Let's start with the lighting in the room: Turn down bright lights, use small table lamps, or better yet, several candles throughout the room. The candles have a calming effect, while maintaining visibility of the things around you. Lingerie has always been considered as an eye-pleaser.

Hearing:

Gentle, relaxing, romantic Music creates a feeling of well-being and relaxation. The voice of a trusted provider, affirmation that you are being cared for, is important for the recipient to hear. The provider likes to hear the soft sighs or moans of approval.

Smell:

Our sense of Smell is enticed by scented candles, scented massage oils, or incense sticks and cones. Floral Fragrances like Jasmine, Vanilla, Sandalwood, as well as fragrances of strawberry, raspberry, champagne are considered aphrodisiacs. Even wearing your favorite cologne or perfume can trigger a sensation of familiarity.

Taste:

Our sense of Taste may be enhanced with edible lotions or flavored lubricants. The Sinclair Institute has wonderful solutions for edible oils and lotions to increase pleasure. Following the contours of your partner's mouth with an ice cube can create a great sensation.

Touch:

Our Skin is the largest area, and the largest organ in our body. Millions of nerve endings act as sensors to take messages to the brain, and from the brain to the rest of the body for response. "Since some areas of the body surface contain many more of these nerve endings than others, they are also more sensitive to the touch and, as a result, they may be especially receptive to sexual stimulation. These particular regions have, therefore, also often been called erogenous zones (literally, loveproducing zones, from the Greek eros: love and genesthai: to produce). The best known erogenous zones are the glans of the penis in men and the clitoris and the minor lips in women, the area between the sex organs and the anus, the anus itself, the buttocks, the inner surfaces of the thighs, the breasts (especially the nipples), the neck, the mouth, and the ears. Touching, stroking, tickling, rubbing, slapping, kissing, or licking these areas can often create or increase sexual excitement. " .

Sexual Touch " There are many different forms of sexual touch. One is not better than another, it depends upon the person who is experiencing the touch and upon the time and place and so on. For one person, being kissed on the neck might be the most important and meaningful part of their sexual experience. For another person, hugging their partner maybe so meaningful to them. One must keep in mind that people will find different experiences important to them. Each individual will experience different sensations and emotions. Partners can touch each other in different ways and experience the sensations that accompany this touching. Even something as simple as one partner gently moving their finger on the other partner's palm can be sexually arousing and a positive experience. For individuals that have lost sensation in their genitals, or certain other parts of their the touching of other parts can be very fulfilling." Information and instructions for Prostate massage and G-Spot massage are located on the page "SPECIAL MASSAGES", click on the left, or at the bottom of this page.

Goosebumps:

One wonderful fact is that our body tells us what feels good and what does not. If you experience goosebumps during the massage, that means that your body enjoys the stroke/technique. To intensify the response, the provider may repeat the previous technique several minutes. SPECIAL MASSAGES This page is dedicated to the practice of Prostate Massage for men and G-Spot Massage for women. Due to a recent decision by the US Supreme Court( June 2003), The practice of prostate/G-Spot massage is now considered an action by 2 consenting adults in a private setting. Previous VA Code § 18.2-361 is no longer valid. Much is written about the use of prostate massage in the medical field, as therapy or prevention for prostate problems. The medical community sees this service as part of wellness care, as well as stress management for men. My research into the female counterpart, the Grafenberg Spot massage, indicates mostly references to Tantric massage, or Tantric Yoga, the use of this technique seems to be mostly for pleasure. I will do my best to give information useful to everybody, without being graphic or offensive. The following techniques may be integrated into the new Super Stress Buster Session! please click link below or on left. Prostate Massage: I found the following information on WebMD , click to read the whole article. "Many men do get great pleasure from having this area stimulated -- often to the point of explosive orgasm. On the other hand, some men find it very uncomfortable to be touched in this area. They may have had unpleasant experiences with prostate exams at a doctor's office. But for many men, in a romantic context with the right partner, the experience is great. You can massage your partner's prostate directly or indirectly. The most effective method is to massage it directly, which means inserting your fingers into his body. Lubricate one or two fingers, and as your partner relaxes, insert them gently into his anus. Go very slowly, and let him decide how fast and how deep you go. Once your fingers are inside, curl them forward towards his penis, and make a "come hither" motion against an object that you will feel pressing against the rectum. Ask him how it feels. If it's not feeling good, stop and move on to something else. A word of warning, though. If your fingernails are not closely trimmed, wear a latex glove and be doubly slow and careful as you enter. If you're careless, an unprotected fingernail might cause a small cut in the tissues inside the anus. While such cuts are rarely dangerous, they can sting for a day or two. You can buy latex gloves -- the thin, transparent kind often used by health workers -- inexpensively at most drug stores. With the indirect method, all touching takes place outside the body. This gives a less intense sensation, but some men prefer it. If you press up behind your partner's testicles (toward the anus) you'll notice that the penis actually extends a couple of inches inside the body. It's above this inner part of the penis that the prostate resides. During your next sexual encounter, press up here and move the penis around slightly to stimulate the prostate. Or you can press up in the area between the genitals and the anus -- the perineum. Both methods lead to external stimulation of the prostate. Whichever technique you use, keep communicating with your partner. Some men can have an orgasm from prostate massage alone, while others like additional direct genital stimulation. You may find that prostate massage is not all that you and he had hoped it would be. Luckily, there are about a hundred other places on a man's body for you to explore. " G-Spot Massage: The Nepal Institute has information and a graphic display that I found suitable for use on this website. Click on the link to read their full report. "The woman's G-spot can be accessed lying down, knees high, middle and ring fingers curled inside or more easily with a small, sanitary, phallic shaped object, or with your beloved's Lingam inside, pointing up behind the pubic bone. A sudden urge to urinate is a clear sign the G-spot has been accessed. It is, of course, best to urinate before this practice, so that you can relax into the feelings. Unlike the clitoris, very firm pressure is needed for stimulation. With a short but full deep outward stroke over the fleshy area in behind the pubic bone, the G-spot will begin to swell. Firm side to side and circular motions can also be applied. After the sensation to urinate passes, either pleasurable or possibly painful feelings will follow both emotionally and physically. A woman's G-spot is a direct access to the second Chakra, and stimulation of this area can touch old emotional wounds that have not been completely processed through and released. This is why it is important to proceed slowly, being sensitive to subtle signals your body and emotions may be giving you. During G-spot massage, place the other hand lightly on your heart Chakra, creating a polarity to channel the energy being aroused in the second Chakra up to your heart center for emotional release. Tears may overcome you from either pleasure or pain. If there is physical pain, back off. Be very light and gentle with yourself. If you feel like screaming to release old blocks, do so. Go with whatever is right for you in the moment. As emotional cleansing takes place, be it in one session, or over a period of time, your pleasure will intensify to some of the sweetest pleasure known to women. As your energy rises to your heart center, and emotional release emerges, keep allowing the energy to flow up into your throat Chakra through breath and sound, and into your head up through your crown like a whale showering water over its self. Allow the Kundalini release to be complete, from root to crown and beyond. Your body may begin to vibrate and tingle, and joy and a feeling of effulgence may embrace your soul. Rejoice in the pleasure of the new opening of energy flow bringing you more and more into harmony with who you were meant to be as a spiritual entity in a physical body." "As you are ready, insert the middle or ring finger(s), reach deep and curl the fingers around behind the pubic bone, pressing and rubbing very firmly into the vaginal wall. It may feel like you are trying to touch the back of the clitoris. When you feel the urge to urinate, you know you have found the spot. This feeling will pass. You may wish to use an object to stimulate the G-spot at this point as fingers grow tired, and it is difficult to reach with your own fingers. Key things to remember are breath awareness, firm pressure and opposite hand on the heart center or other Chakras making a polarity channel up. Do not rush; let it happen. Inhale deeply at the point of rapture, and stretch the exhale out to make the throbbing all consuming as though to swallow you whole. See if you can relax enough to let the Amrita flow. Do not push yourself; it will happen in time. Relax, let go of inhibitions, and enjoy your time spent in a self-loving G-spot massage. Closing Remarks: As you can see, it takes time and practice to really enjoy these techniques. A loving relationship between partners, or a relationship of openness and trust between provider and recipient are the cornerstones that make these experienxces pleasureable. If you are new to these concepts, be patient, communicate with your partner. There are many great companies that provide instructional videos and aides like vibrators that make this a good learning experience. Check with your local adult store, or visit the Sinclair Intimacy Institute online for great instructional videos that help make your massage a loving, caring, learning experience. My favorite saying is "Perfect Practice makes Perfect!"--so, practice often, and have fun! Enjoy each other's company!

10 THINGS TO CONSIDER IF EROTIC DANCING IS FOR YOU

 1 Shoes and clothing are important despite the fact that you take most of it off.

No only can exotic clothing and shoes be expensive, they also create the look you want on stage and that can often affect how much money you are able to make. Every customer has different taste in women and appealing to that taste is the only way to really keep the customer for more dances. There are three major looks that are normally found in the club: a)Outfits that are fun and flirty, often times pink or fun bright colors. These tend to appeal to customers who are looking for the younger-looking, girl next door. Being cute and appearing younger than you are tends to bring in the most cash. My theory is because older men tend to want exactly what they wanted in highschool, even though they have changed in appearance. There is a right and a wrong way to do this look. If you're older than 26, don't even bother. Women who dress far too young for their age is taboo in public, as well as in the gentleman's cabaret. Another way to sabatoge this look is to over do it. A cute pink bikini with a strawberry pattern and pretty clips in your hair can be adorable, lollipops and rainbow leg warmers are ridiculous. When women over do it in this way it reminds me of when I was five and wanted to wear my bathing suit under my clothing all of the time: it's childish and doesn't make a lick of sense. Often coupled with the clear open-toed shoe, this outfit is meant to look as light as the material it is made of. Clear plastic shoes are the easiest to wear when choosing an outfit like this because they will go with any color and not draw attention to your feet.

b) Outfits that are darker in color and tend to have a harder edge. These outfits go especially well with alternative music, rockabilly styles, as well as a seductive electronica. This look is best suited to the girl that isn't interested in bopping along to fergie but rather someone that can make a dance routine to bjork's "Human Nature" look like an exotic peep show. This appeals to a lot of younger men as well as the older men that like to explore their alternative side. There are many ways to ruin this look and it happens ALL of the time (If you've been in an exotic dance club, you'll know exactly what I'm talking about). What women don't realize is that a black romper coupled with a g-string made of metal chainlink and chrome/black heels is extremely erotic while scene hair cuts, ridiculous jewelry with razor blades, thick black'n'chunky boots and an over abundance of black eye liner is just plain stupid. You didn't make friends with that look in high school and it really won't help you out here either.  

c) Outfits that are more lingerie-based, flowing and sensual. This is the outfit that I recommend to anyone that is older than 26, chooses to dance to music that is sexually charged (a great example is Kylie Minogue's "Slow"), and/or tends to dance and do a floor routine more than inverts and pole tricks. Lace and flowing fabrics are ultra sexy and can make a dancer of any age look unbelievably gorgeous. Spins around the pole and even just walking is accentuated by the flow of fabric allowing the dance to seem more fluid and sensual. It also adds to a floor routine because you can twist the fabric, have a little peek-a-boo game with your most intimate parts, and even have a s&m binding session with the pole which you could dance out of. Can you tell this is my most favorite look? Shoes, like the first look we discussed, should be simple and not draw attention to your feet. Clear shoes will work but why not get a sexy pair of stiletto heels with small embellishments that sparkle? Classic chunky shoes wouldn't work here but a shoe that has thin straps and a shorter platform than normal will lengthen your legs without actually adding length and are simple enough to keep the main attaction above the knee. I find that most men are attracted to this type of girl and usually stay for more dances.

Because everyone has their own taste, you can't garantee your outfit will be a hit with every gentleman. Spend time soaking in the vibe of the club and pick an outfit that is best suited for the atmosphere so that you don't appear to be a fish out of water.   

2) Your Social Skills

Engaging a customer in a polite, light-weight conversation before asking them to dance increases your chances that they will, in fact, spend money on you. It's really no different than meeting anyone else in a business situation. Ask them how they are and if they are enjoying themselves BUT stay away from questions such as:

"Are you married?" (it may just remind them they have a wife and that they should leave)

"What do you do?" (Some people don't see this as a rude question but when propositioning someone to give you money you shouldn't pry especially since most people hate their jobs. The only way I would ask this question was if the gentleman said he was visiting on business.)

"Will you buy me a drink?" (Come on now! You know better than that! Only take what is offered in this situation because the gentleman can be offended by how rude you are and decide not to take you for a dance. If you ever ask this be assured you just traded a cocktail for 3-4 dances in the backroom. Good job, moron.)

"Do you have children?" (Let's face it... his daughter is probably your age, don't remind him. If he does bring children into the conversation remember to keep it light and polite.)

Remember, you can ask every customer in the room to take you for a dance and one or two might actually take you for a song but if you put the extra effort into a five minute conversation the gentleman will be more inclined to spend more time with you. It is not unusal for a gentleman to relate to you personnally, like your spirit, and pay for an hour up front. CH-CHING!

3) Not every customer is a saint sitting on a wad of cash.

It's common for men to agree to go for dances without having enough money for it, understand the rate at which they are billed, or to expect more than what is legally possible. I'm not sure if it's the fact that it is in an establishment of intoxication or just because they're men but being ripped off happens more than you would expect. There are specific steps to ensuring this doesn't happen to you.

a) Make sure the customer is coherent and visably semi-sober.

b) Explain how you will be paid per song.

c) Explain to him the rules of touching and if propositioned for "extra attention" politely let them know that it is illegal and you are a law abiding citizen.

d) after every song ask them if he would like you to continue. I find a lot of girls will keep going if the client doesn't say anything and ultimately end up dancing a lot longer than the customer can afford. This ends in wasted time because the customer will refuse to pay, bouncers will become involved, and every one becomes upset. This will also tarnish your reputation if customers claim you ripped them off infront of other potential clients.

e) it is a good idea to offer dances for a good price should he buy half an hour of your time. It's almost like buying in bulk but inreality, there is less of a chance of being ripped off if you get the money up front and instead of the average 2-4 dances, you get an entire half an hour. I know of girls in clubs that charge $20 a dance but will offer a good rate of $160 for half an hour instead of $200. You will find you can make more money despite losing $40 since it would take an average of two songs before another client comes along AND you convince the man to spend more than he originally would have.

4) There are a lot of strange personalities out there and you will meet them all.

So far, in my mere three years of work, I have seen so many odd people and witnessed so many strange behaviours. IT SERIOUSLY BLOWS MY MIND EVEN TO THIS DAY. There is no getting used to some of the requests from clients. Now, because I'm worried about you going out there without being aware of this, I'm going to let you know what kind of freaks are going to approach you.

a) The cryer. Maybe his wife just left him, he's lonely, or is getting shipped off to Iraq in the morning. Who knows! He's just looking for a little comfort in the company of a beautiful lady and then, mid-dance, he starts bawling his eyes out, clinging to you for support and making you at a loss for words. Don't worry, remind him he's still on the clock and console the poor dear because these guys will pay for your time as well as tip a bit extra not to tell anyone.

b) The Radio Operator Did you ever have a boyfriend way back in junior high that had no idea what he was suppose to do with nipples and sat there tweaking them like he's tuning a radio? Some of those boys never grow out of it. I'M SERIOUS! Grown men going to town on your nipples like they're popping pimples. All you can do is politely remind them that it hurts because yes, believe or not, they are attached to you. Unfortunately, if they are drunk enough, they'll keep doing it so either you be prepared to put a cold pack on your nips or you terminate his session.

c) The S&M fan that is too embarrassed to find a dominatrix in the yellow pages. You think I'm joking but it's all too common to find men that want you to step on their genitals with your heels, pinch, poke, slap, and call them names. If you're incomfortable with this then they will usually turn down the regular dance BUT if you're smart you'll say that is outside of a normal dance and it costs extra. It's especially fantastic when you've just had a fight with your boyfriend and you're down for a little ball-crushing.

d) The dirty talker. The most common of all is the man that wants to say the most disturbing things to you while you dance for him and get away with it. A common thing is to be called names such as "slut" and "whore" and most girls don't put up with it or down right charge them more for their colorful language. You just have to remember it's always your choice to dance for him and you can end it at any time.

5) The only money you get is the money you make (DUH!) 

 It's rare to find a club that will pay their dancers. Honestly, most dancers pay a fee to work in the club. The only money you will be getting is the money handed to you after providing dances which means there is no time for being lazy. This isn't a job where you can waltz in, take forever to get ready, mill around, drink and wait for men to ask you to go for dances. NO! You have to hussel, work the room, and emplore every opportunity to make money. That means you should eat a meal before you go to work, bring a quick snack for the middle, bring bandaids for if your shoes rub you, cut down on cigarette breaks and the biggest one of all is to not get drunk.  

6) Other dancers are competition.

 You are competing against other women for the gentlemen's attention but it's important to keep an air of tact and manners about you. Let the other girls be catty, gossip, and be lewd while you ignore them and do your job while keeping the appearance of being lady-like. If you keep your head down, work, and generally keep to your self when it comes to other staff you're going to bank much more than the others. All of this is just a distraction from the unsurmountable amount of money you could be making.   

7) You can establish a regular clientel.

 The easiest way is to become familar with faces, realize which regulars take girls for dances (because not all of them will), and then befriend them. Learn their name, ask them how their day was and then you're off with a head start. If a regular walks into a bar and you're the first one to say "Hi, Jim! How is it going?" he's going to stop in one spot to talk with you. Remember, having polite conversations and smiling is the best way to make friends but it's even better when those friends have money.   

8) T.I.P.S means "To Insure Prompt Service".

I can't stress this one enough. The bartenders, cocktail waitresses and bouncers see a lot of girls come and go. If you're nice, polite, and tip they will go the extra mile for you because, trust me, they've seen a lot of evil dancers in their time. Bouncers keep you safe and will be more inclined to be on your side in the event of an arguement with a customer over money. Bartenders are always approached to set up a dance session when the client is too shy to approach a girl and often times when asked which girl they would like they say "Oh, anyone will do". If the bartenders like you, 80% of the time these clients are sent your way. Cocktail waitresses will also start noticing if your drink is low and offer to grab you another one which is fantastic if you're with a customer because most times they'll offer to pay!

9) Anal bleach will be your friend. I don't really have to explain this one except I can give you advise on what kind to buy. Look for a skin bleaching cream that doesn't have sun screen in it (often indicated if the brand is a "nighttime formula") and contains 2% solution of Hydroquinone (because it's such a delicate area). You can pick this up at almost any chain drug store or you can go here http://www.shopinprivate.com/anbleaccream.html

Keeping personal care wipes with you on the job is a really good idea because I've never laughed as hard as I did when the black lights picked up a piece of toilet paper on a girl's bum... mid-stage performance.

10) Stay away from drugs.

This one should be pretty obvious but I've seen a lot of dancers end up trying a little, going partying, and then spending all of the cash they earned that night on blow. If you're in this business to make money then don't be an idiot, I'm sick of seeing strung out girls that can't do their job. It's a mean thing to say but dancers are a dime a dozen and if you want to do blow, go work at macdonalds for minimum wage, but there are tons of people that would love to have the opportunity to make hundreds of dollars a night.

 

SWINGERS LIFESTYLE WHEN,WHY,AND HOW

 

Swinging began in the early 1950’s in the wealthier suburbs of America . During that time the only ways to meet other swingers was through personal ads in the newspapers.       It wasn't until the 1960’s in Berkeley, California that the first organization, “Sexual Freedom League”, for swingers was opened. Ultimately, an umbrella organization called North American Swing Club Association (NASCA) was formed to give encourage accurate information about swinging lifestyles all across America. Today, swinging is fast becoming an accepted lifestyle. Many individuals and couples who are interested in entering such lifestyle can go to the internet, clubs, or many of the organizations that specializes in this type of sexual expression. These days swingers are not just restricted to clubs to met swingers, but private swinging with friends and other met through personal ads in swinging publications are becoming more and more popular.     A number of swinging organization can be found in almost every countries, with the greatest numbers of registered participants in the United States. Other popular countries are Canada, sections of Europe such as England, France, Switzerland, Germany, and Japan . In addition a number of clubs are growing in Australia, New Zealand, and South Africa. Swinging clubs don’t just offer parties and special events for swingers but also offers group discussions, workshops, and travel information for their members.

Who are swingers

swing·er

Slang A person who actively seeks excitement and moves with the latest trends.

1. A person who engages freely in promiscuous sex.
2. A member of a couple, especially a married couple, who exchanges sexual partners.

Anybody you know could be a swinger. Swingers can come from all races, religions, and any social classes. They are couples and individuals who see their sexual life from a different prospective.

Swinger’s feels and treat sex as recreational play

Swinger's Lifestyle

A swinger's lifestyle is free from a world of frustration and lost loves. The swinger’s lifestyle simply gives and receives pleasure. There are a few important things to remember if you are to enter a swinger lifestyle: No one should swing unless they really want to. No one should ever go into a swinging lifestyle if they are at all uncertain of their own wishes or of the strength of their emotional relationship with their partner.       Swinger’s lifestyle is based upon communication more then any other factors. Couples involved in swinger’s lifestyle should have the ability to talk openly about there feelings with one another. Learning to do this must precede any decision or discussion of entering the lifestyle. There are 3 common types of swinger’s lifestyles: Soft Swinging Closed Swinging Open Swinging Soft Swinging         Soft swinging involves no sexual intercourse between non-partners. This means, couples can have sex with their own partners in the same room at the same time while another couple is having sex. They do not exchange partners at any time during the session. It can simply mean there is no vaginal penetration between non-partners. Although they do not physically swap partner, there possibly can be some touching, or oral sex involved. These are usually negotiated in advance between the couples. At most of the time a lot of watching between other couples foreplay will go on. Soft swinging allows couples to add a little spice into their relationship with fun, but without the risk of jealousy. Many couples start off with soft swinging as this is a great way to begin exploring the swinging lifestyle.     Closed Swinging This is where partners swap, but have sexual intercourse in separate rooms. Closed swinging allows couples and individual for a more intimate experience. Many people feel that is allows them more freedom to explore with fewer interruptions of their enjoyment.         Many closed swinging occurs at parties and events held in large homes. Closed swinging is usually for couples who have been in swinging for quite some time and have built up trust and understanding between each other.   Open Swinging This kind of swinging allows partners to swap and have sexual intercourse in the same room, or bed. This includes orgies and it is great for exhibitionist and voyeurs, who can show off or just enjoy watching their partner play.   Many swingers find open swinging allows for total release of their sexual desires and fantasies. An open swinging is successful when all members in the group demonstrate no jealousy. Therefore, it is recommended for couples who have been swinging for some time.

SWINGERS RULES

Swinger’s Rules

There are no strict rules that you have to follow when you enter into a swinger lifestyle, but there are a few things that we recommend you and your partner to follow:       Enter swinging as a couple – in the context of swinging you should enter as a couple. By being couples it does not mean that you need to be married, but should very least have a little history together. Be familiar with each others’ emotional needs and wants - this is an extremely important rule when it comes to feeling comfortable about other couples approaching you in a swinger lifestyle. Have good communication – this is critical in a swinger lifestyle as you need to be clear about what you and your partner are doing and why.   Confidence and comfort first – you and your partner must have confidence in each other when being approached by others. If this is not reached, jealousy will occur (see dealing with jealousy). You should be aware of each other comfort when swinging with other couples. If you or your partner is uncomfortable with a situation or activity, it should be ceded immediately. The rule of thumb is couples should view swinging as a form of enhancement to their existing sexual relationship, rather than to replace a fail one. Swinging is only a form of social activity for both to enjoy and experience together.

HOW TO START SWINGING

How to Start Swinging?

Your choices to start swinging can vary from: Party-houses and on-premises clubs   This is the best possible way to start swinging and to be introduce to other swingers through various parties and events. However, there are always fierce competitions for places and only a small amount of first-timers can expect admission to such events. Even if you do get in, memberships to clubs are quite expensive and the activities that goes on are a bit too much for beginners.     Websites ads You and your partner can also start swinger by placing an ad on the web. Many websites offers placement of personal ads for free, while others will charge a small membership fee. Free placements of ads are good,   but just beware of fakes. Pay-sites have more real ads and fewer timewasters. Just remember ads can be slow and requires lots of writing before you find the right swinger for your partner and yourself, but whichever way you and your partner choose, you would be sure to meet other interested couples for some fun. Magazines and Newspapers   Another way to meet other interested swinging couples is to place a personal ad in newspaper or popular swinger magazines. They can also attract many interested couples.   How to Deal with Jealousy?   Jealousy is when one apprehends of losing affection or position from another. This frequently arises in couples who are new to swinging. The main cause is that during swinging party and events, one partner may get more attention with plenty of freewheeling sex and sexual fantasies fulfillment, while the other is left out feeling insecure and unwanted.       He or she may worry that they are not valuable enough to keep his/her primary partner’s interest and love, or that fewer swingers are interested in playing with them compared to their primary partner. This would create even more jealousy and insecurity.   Swinging is all about having equal fun and enjoyment together and not just for one partner. It should be done in a way so that neither partner is left out of any action. Many would form a rule that they only swing together as a couple meaning that they chose together and only will have sexual arrangement in one room together. By doing so, no one will feel left out nor would they be insecure.     What you like about Swinging? Many couples are attracted to a swinging lifestyle for various reasons. Some find that having sex with other people/couples to be very arousing and also finds that swinging improves their own sex lives and relationship with their partner.       Other reasons may include:   Making new friendships. Appreciation to the open-mindedness and pleasure that swinging can bring Allow to explore your potential bisexuality. To be able to have sexual relationships with others without the feeling of guilt from cheating. Able to experience with fantasies such as light B&D and light S&M. A lifestyle to discover your sexual needs and wants. Learning about you sexuality.   Allow couples the opportunity to learn to relax and appreciate sexual pleasure. Helps couples to view sex as source of pleasure and intimacy and less as a social bargaining chip or ego boost. Learn to accept that others have a variety of body types, sizes, age and shapes.   Able to provided an opportunity to dress up sexily and then go completely nude at parties and events which can provide fun and a sensual experience in and of itself.