SENSUAL MASSAGE

 

"Sensory stimulation will usually not be effective unless the appropriate emotional conditions are also present. Feelings of trust, of being wanted and cared for, and affection for one's partner often enhance our sexual response; in fact, they may be necessary ingredients. In contrast, feelings of being used, lack of emotional rapport, or negative emotions like guilt and anxiety often eliminate or restrain our capacity for erotic arousal."... more

Preparation:

Let's prepare the room for a stimulating experience: The temperature in the room needs to be comfortable for being naked. It is better to have the room too warm than too cool. The Massage Surface, mostly massage table, should be covered with a nice warm flannel sheet for warmth, or a satin sheet for the slick sensation. Many people choose a bear rug in front of a roaring fireplace as selected location.

Vision:

Let's start with the lighting in the room: Turn down bright lights, use small table lamps, or better yet, several candles throughout the room. The candles have a calming effect, while maintaining visibility of the things around you. Lingerie has always been considered as an eye-pleaser.

Hearing:

Gentle, relaxing, romantic Music creates a feeling of well-being and relaxation. The voice of a trusted provider, affirmation that you are being cared for, is important for the recipient to hear. The provider likes to hear the soft sighs or moans of approval.

Smell:

Our sense of Smell is enticed by scented candles, scented massage oils, or incense sticks and cones. Floral Fragrances like Jasmine, Vanilla, Sandalwood, as well as fragrances of strawberry, raspberry, champagne are considered aphrodisiacs. Even wearing your favorite cologne or perfume can trigger a sensation of familiarity.

Taste:

Our sense of Taste may be enhanced with edible lotions or flavored lubricants. The Sinclair Institute has wonderful solutions for edible oils and lotions to increase pleasure. Following the contours of your partner's mouth with an ice cube can create a great sensation.

Touch:

Our Skin is the largest area, and the largest organ in our body. Millions of nerve endings act as sensors to take messages to the brain, and from the brain to the rest of the body for response. "Since some areas of the body surface contain many more of these nerve endings than others, they are also more sensitive to the touch and, as a result, they may be especially receptive to sexual stimulation. These particular regions have, therefore, also often been called erogenous zones (literally, loveproducing zones, from the Greek eros: love and genesthai: to produce). The best known erogenous zones are the glans of the penis in men and the clitoris and the minor lips in women, the area between the sex organs and the anus, the anus itself, the buttocks, the inner surfaces of the thighs, the breasts (especially the nipples), the neck, the mouth, and the ears. Touching, stroking, tickling, rubbing, slapping, kissing, or licking these areas can often create or increase sexual excitement. " .

Sexual Touch " There are many different forms of sexual touch. One is not better than another, it depends upon the person who is experiencing the touch and upon the time and place and so on. For one person, being kissed on the neck might be the most important and meaningful part of their sexual experience. For another person, hugging their partner maybe so meaningful to them. One must keep in mind that people will find different experiences important to them. Each individual will experience different sensations and emotions. Partners can touch each other in different ways and experience the sensations that accompany this touching. Even something as simple as one partner gently moving their finger on the other partner's palm can be sexually arousing and a positive experience. For individuals that have lost sensation in their genitals, or certain other parts of their the touching of other parts can be very fulfilling." Information and instructions for Prostate massage and G-Spot massage are located on the page "SPECIAL MASSAGES", click on the left, or at the bottom of this page.

Goosebumps:

One wonderful fact is that our body tells us what feels good and what does not. If you experience goosebumps during the massage, that means that your body enjoys the stroke/technique. To intensify the response, the provider may repeat the previous technique several minutes. SPECIAL MASSAGES This page is dedicated to the practice of Prostate Massage for men and G-Spot Massage for women. Due to a recent decision by the US Supreme Court( June 2003), The practice of prostate/G-Spot massage is now considered an action by 2 consenting adults in a private setting. Previous VA Code § 18.2-361 is no longer valid. Much is written about the use of prostate massage in the medical field, as therapy or prevention for prostate problems. The medical community sees this service as part of wellness care, as well as stress management for men. My research into the female counterpart, the Grafenberg Spot massage, indicates mostly references to Tantric massage, or Tantric Yoga, the use of this technique seems to be mostly for pleasure. I will do my best to give information useful to everybody, without being graphic or offensive. The following techniques may be integrated into the new Super Stress Buster Session! please click link below or on left. Prostate Massage: I found the following information on WebMD , click to read the whole article. "Many men do get great pleasure from having this area stimulated -- often to the point of explosive orgasm. On the other hand, some men find it very uncomfortable to be touched in this area. They may have had unpleasant experiences with prostate exams at a doctor's office. But for many men, in a romantic context with the right partner, the experience is great. You can massage your partner's prostate directly or indirectly. The most effective method is to massage it directly, which means inserting your fingers into his body. Lubricate one or two fingers, and as your partner relaxes, insert them gently into his anus. Go very slowly, and let him decide how fast and how deep you go. Once your fingers are inside, curl them forward towards his penis, and make a "come hither" motion against an object that you will feel pressing against the rectum. Ask him how it feels. If it's not feeling good, stop and move on to something else. A word of warning, though. If your fingernails are not closely trimmed, wear a latex glove and be doubly slow and careful as you enter. If you're careless, an unprotected fingernail might cause a small cut in the tissues inside the anus. While such cuts are rarely dangerous, they can sting for a day or two. You can buy latex gloves -- the thin, transparent kind often used by health workers -- inexpensively at most drug stores. With the indirect method, all touching takes place outside the body. This gives a less intense sensation, but some men prefer it. If you press up behind your partner's testicles (toward the anus) you'll notice that the penis actually extends a couple of inches inside the body. It's above this inner part of the penis that the prostate resides. During your next sexual encounter, press up here and move the penis around slightly to stimulate the prostate. Or you can press up in the area between the genitals and the anus -- the perineum. Both methods lead to external stimulation of the prostate. Whichever technique you use, keep communicating with your partner. Some men can have an orgasm from prostate massage alone, while others like additional direct genital stimulation. You may find that prostate massage is not all that you and he had hoped it would be. Luckily, there are about a hundred other places on a man's body for you to explore. " G-Spot Massage: The Nepal Institute has information and a graphic display that I found suitable for use on this website. Click on the link to read their full report. "The woman's G-spot can be accessed lying down, knees high, middle and ring fingers curled inside or more easily with a small, sanitary, phallic shaped object, or with your beloved's Lingam inside, pointing up behind the pubic bone. A sudden urge to urinate is a clear sign the G-spot has been accessed. It is, of course, best to urinate before this practice, so that you can relax into the feelings. Unlike the clitoris, very firm pressure is needed for stimulation. With a short but full deep outward stroke over the fleshy area in behind the pubic bone, the G-spot will begin to swell. Firm side to side and circular motions can also be applied. After the sensation to urinate passes, either pleasurable or possibly painful feelings will follow both emotionally and physically. A woman's G-spot is a direct access to the second Chakra, and stimulation of this area can touch old emotional wounds that have not been completely processed through and released. This is why it is important to proceed slowly, being sensitive to subtle signals your body and emotions may be giving you. During G-spot massage, place the other hand lightly on your heart Chakra, creating a polarity to channel the energy being aroused in the second Chakra up to your heart center for emotional release. Tears may overcome you from either pleasure or pain. If there is physical pain, back off. Be very light and gentle with yourself. If you feel like screaming to release old blocks, do so. Go with whatever is right for you in the moment. As emotional cleansing takes place, be it in one session, or over a period of time, your pleasure will intensify to some of the sweetest pleasure known to women. As your energy rises to your heart center, and emotional release emerges, keep allowing the energy to flow up into your throat Chakra through breath and sound, and into your head up through your crown like a whale showering water over its self. Allow the Kundalini release to be complete, from root to crown and beyond. Your body may begin to vibrate and tingle, and joy and a feeling of effulgence may embrace your soul. Rejoice in the pleasure of the new opening of energy flow bringing you more and more into harmony with who you were meant to be as a spiritual entity in a physical body." "As you are ready, insert the middle or ring finger(s), reach deep and curl the fingers around behind the pubic bone, pressing and rubbing very firmly into the vaginal wall. It may feel like you are trying to touch the back of the clitoris. When you feel the urge to urinate, you know you have found the spot. This feeling will pass. You may wish to use an object to stimulate the G-spot at this point as fingers grow tired, and it is difficult to reach with your own fingers. Key things to remember are breath awareness, firm pressure and opposite hand on the heart center or other Chakras making a polarity channel up. Do not rush; let it happen. Inhale deeply at the point of rapture, and stretch the exhale out to make the throbbing all consuming as though to swallow you whole. See if you can relax enough to let the Amrita flow. Do not push yourself; it will happen in time. Relax, let go of inhibitions, and enjoy your time spent in a self-loving G-spot massage. Closing Remarks: As you can see, it takes time and practice to really enjoy these techniques. A loving relationship between partners, or a relationship of openness and trust between provider and recipient are the cornerstones that make these experienxces pleasureable. If you are new to these concepts, be patient, communicate with your partner. There are many great companies that provide instructional videos and aides like vibrators that make this a good learning experience. Check with your local adult store, or visit the Sinclair Intimacy Institute online for great instructional videos that help make your massage a loving, caring, learning experience. My favorite saying is "Perfect Practice makes Perfect!"--so, practice often, and have fun! Enjoy each other's company!